Conversation Starters That Work!

Conversation Starters That Work!

In short – there are a myriad of ways to be introduced to new people – and the notion of “you HAVE to go to your friend’s damned bar-b-que” can actually be a pleasant experience if you look at it as a chance to meet that someone special.

Some Guy is Blocking Your Approach/Game

Some Guy is Blocking Your Approach/Game

Why? Because this will drop his perceived value to the group – and cause him to qualify himself to try and raise it back up (another classic beta trait: qualifying oneself).

Great Places to Meet Women

Great Places to Meet Women

A woman’s defenses are up at a bar or party. It can be done – but it’s a lot easier to approach her in a place where she is relaxed and receptive to meeting you. It’s more fun and exciting for her.

The Art of Meeting Women Everywhere

The Art of Meeting Women Everywhere

One of the absolute worst places to try and meet women is in a bar, or a club. And yet that seems to be the go-to strategy a majority of men take. Perhaps it’s because they have access to that shot of liquid courage at the bar.

The Cold Approach – Get Her Guard Down

The Cold Approach – Get Her Guard Down

When you are approached by someone you don’t know, what do you immediately think? I can tell you what women think – “What does he want and how long is this going to take?” There is a great way to disarm this. Gary says, “Move in. Now.” Don’t give her time to put up the bitch shield. Surprise attack! For example, if I told you I was going to rob your house in two weeks, you would have plenty of time get an alarm system, a gun, buy a guard dog – you name it. But if I just walked up and burgled your house when you weren’t expecting it, I’d be much more successful, right? So the longer you wait, the worse it is. You not only give her time set up the burglar alarm, you allow that inner-mind bullshit to start talking you out of it. Another great way to avoid this bitch shield is to be aware of women who are open to being approached in the first place. When you look around the room and make eye contact with her, smile. If she holds your gaze for a second and smiles back, she’s 100 times more open to being approached than a woman who rolls her eyes at you, don’t you think? You can get just about any woman you want, but why not make it easier on yourself? Look for her eye contact and her smile. You, on the other hand, cannot be leering or staring. You absolutely cannot catch eye contact and immediately look down or look away as if you’ve just been...
The Approaching Man’s Mindset

The Approaching Man’s Mindset

Without a doubt, one of the top issues men ask our advice on is Approaching. Since this manual is “20 pages to Master Approaching” we going to jump right in and get to the information you need know. Are you ready to start meeting more women? Good – let’s go. THE RULE As a man, you do the approaching. Simple. Learn it, live it. The “stand around and hope she notices you” tactic never works. Hoping she will approach you never works. Wishing she would make it easy on you isn’t going to happen. You are a man. You approach and meet the women you want. Moving on. THE BEST PICK UP LINE EVER Oh, you just can’t wait for that one, can you? Well, we’ll tell you something, chuckles. We’re all still waiting on that one. You want to learn how to approach and pick up women, right? Maybe you were hoping we’d throw you a couple of “can’t miss” lines and a killer technique and you’d be hypnotizing women in short order. And brothers, believe us. If we had it, we’d share it. And we’d be rich. Here’s the deal with pick up lines. The short version is: It’s not important what you say, it’s important how you say it. The long version is: It all comes down to confidence. Hey, that’s a big revelation, right? Just turn on the magic confidence machine and away we go. We’ll talk about getting your confidence in a bit. But for now, know this key concept: A pick up line can’t transform you into a suave confident man that gets...
Overcome the “Fear” of Approaching

Overcome the “Fear” of Approaching

What is the NUMBER ONE issue I help men with – every time, ever day? Hands down, it is this ever-pervasive fear of approaching. A condition that almost every man has – even the ones who are good at approaching – and one that is quite frankly easily overcome with a few simple mindset changes. During a recent WebCast Seminar I conducted, the students attending invariably started asking more and more questions about approaching – and that wasn’t even our topic. So I started to ask questions back to them: “Why are you afraid to approach a woman?” Answers from students: You put yourself on the line, could be humiliated I don’t know what to say I have a lack of experience in approaching women The last time I did, I got a “no” and it takes like 3 months for me to get the courage up again And all of those answers are legit – especially to the guy that has the issue. It’s real enough for him. But I can tell you this now – everyone of those issues (humiliation, knowing what to say, lack of experience, and rejection recovery time) can easily be eliminated with a small mindset change. A change to action. And I’ll explain all of it in the rest of this newsletter. During that same seminar, I told this short, illustrative story: There’s two guys in a foxhole in a war zone. Bombs blasting away, a battlefield in front of them, guns going off – a general hell of a situation. All of a sudden, a man from their unit is struck and...
Top 5 Openers for Talking to Women

Top 5 Openers for Talking to Women

Have you ever asked yourself, “How do I start a conversation with a girl?” Here’s your answer. Almost every man I talk to about picking up women always says the same thing. “I don’t know what to say,” or, “How do I start a conversation with her?” And any manner of things that boils down to freezing up due to lack of preparation or abundance of fear. While you’ve probably heard tons of clunkers for “pick up lines” and may have even tried some awful ones – I’m only going to focus on some of the best conversation starters I’ve come across in my years of experience in meeting women. Let’s first dive into what “openers” are and what makes a good one, then we’ll talk about some of my favorites. PUA Opener – Definition PUA = Pick Up Artist. Opener = First words you say to engage a woman in an interesting conversation. For a complete list of the best tried and tested conversation starters I’ve ever come across, and how to use them correctly, download and listen to my 3-hour audio program, Complete Conversation Technique. Why is a good opener different from pick up lines? When you think of pick up lines you probably think of some cheesy line like, “What’s your sign?”  Or “Did it hurt? Falling from heaven.” While the classic “pick up lines” seem like they’re designed to attract women – they actually do the opposite: Send them heading for the hills. They’ve heard them all. On the other hand – a good opener at first glance appears like it isn’t designed to pick up women at all. It’s much more stealth. What...
Tips For How to Meet More Women

Tips For How to Meet More Women

Some openers and topics. We will talk about these and why they work – they are good for different things, but mostly opening a conversation and establishing your alpha-ness. Opinion gambit: “Hey, this will just take a second – I need a female opinion on something….(I got several good ones for you)” – this is by far the best conversation starter – there’s no pick up involved (yet) there’s a false time constraint – and the topics will interest her. Women love to give their opinion – especially about drama and relationships. Can you think of good topics before we speak tomorrow? “You look like somebody I should meet.” (if she asks why…) “Why not? I like the way you carry yourself. Maybe I was wrong…I’m JD….” “Excuse me just for one quick moment….you look cool – tell me, is there a tall blonde in a red blouse behind me still?” “Oh, it’s nothing – she’s sort of stalking me.” Great topics and things to get her talking and opening up: “So, why would I be drawn to you just now?” (if she says “I don’t know…” I have follow ups for you) See if she believes in magic spells, or ghosts. Tell her the place you are in is haunted. A girl od’d in the ladie’s room back in the ‘20’s or whatever – she still haunts this place. Women love spirits and shit – a good way to get her talking. When you want to know stuff about her – don’t ask. Tell. Tell her to tell you something – For example: Instead of “What’s your favorite color”? Say, “Tell me what color turns you on.” You can...
5 Easy Ways to Improve Your Success with Women

5 Easy Ways to Improve Your Success with Women

If you’re going out this weekend, tonight or any time - here’s 5 easy tips to give you the edge over your competition. 1. Be the Center of Attention Want to be the one who gets noticed? Stand in the center of the room. According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, the author of several books and nationally-known expert in the field of spacial psychology, where you are in a room (and what you’re doing) has a lot to do with your ability to attract the opposite sex. Where should you be for the highest impact and the greatest number of interested cuties? Smack-dab in the center of the room, standing up and moving around a bit. But pacing around or acting squirelly is bad – it’s a beta male characteristic and is a sign of insecurity. If you’re in a bar or nightclub, the best place to be is at one of the corners on the bar – the actual bar surface where drinks are served. It’s a major intersection and will draw notice from all angles coming and going. Not only will you meet more people, but, according to Mehrabian, bartenters tend to gravitate toward the corners as well. When you are able to throw in Interesting conversation, access to full drinks and proximity to everyone – you won’t feel like you’ve died and gone to dating heaven, but you will see your opportunities and success increase. Lots of men tend to walk into a strange environment and hunch down and hide away in the corners – as if they are an outsider. And they may as well be...
Meet a Woman On Public Transportation

Meet a Woman On Public Transportation

Some recent letters and emails from my readers: JD, The Alpha Life Volume 1 is f*cking sweet. I just finished it. It is no nonsense common sense stuff, maybe to some lol , but usually you are not exposed to it all at once in one neat package. Brilliant…. Hey, send me the Alpha Life Volume 2. Thanks… Robert D. – Hey Rob, Thanks a lot – The Alpha Life Series really is a master program. Everything you need to make that transformation. Too many men live a life of quiet desperation – unhappy with their love life, dating life or the woman they are with and they just settle. As a man, you should never have to settle – for anything. You only go around once and I’m glad you are finding the material useful – you will love Volume Two. It picks up where the first one left off – and it’s packed with lots of the details you need to live the Alpha Lifestyle. Thanks again for your support, JD – Picking Up Women on Public Transportation Hi JD, there’s a question about women I’d like to ask you about: I’m a student and I travel on the train quite often. Almost on a daily basis, I see really cute girls sitting on the train by themselves, or sitting on the bus just across from me. I’m wondering, how should I approach these women? I want to talk to her directly but I think the people around will make her feel more self conscious. Should I move to sit next to her? What are your thoughts on this?...
How To Get A Woman’s Phone Number

How To Get A Woman’s Phone Number

Hey men. I have some good stuff for you to use this weekend. Some really killer free tips and technique. Stuff I use and teach all the time. My favorite, most effective phone number technique is yours. This one works. And just a note – the reason all of things I teach you are so powerful and so effective, is because it’s all real. It’s all stuff that I’ve spent years perfecting, and that I personally use and do all the time. So just another quick shout to those of you who are deep into Volume One of of my latest audio program. Everyone seems to be loving the Alpha Life Volume One – Beyond Alpha. Over 500 copies have been downloaded, and the emails are starting to pour in. Here’s a couple more emails I got permission to share with you from a few listeners. “JD – I’ve been struggling for so long with the concept of “alpha male” – it seems the more I’ve tried to read about it, the more confused I got. There is so much conflicting information out there – and even when I find something I think I can use, there’s never any real advice on how to “do” this stuff. Thanks for breaking this down into a truly listenable, learnable art form. My confidence is growing already, just knowing that I have a path. Send me Volume Two immediately.” – Peter Lewis, OR “Mr. Dallas – you are right. I want to be an alpha male because that’s who I was born to be. I can’t help it – all men have...
Smiling and Eye Contact

Smiling and Eye Contact

Question from a reader: Hey J.D. – I read that an alpha should only smile if something merits it - but you mentioned in an article when visiting a club, the alpha male should have a big beaming smile when he enters the room. I thought being smiley all the time was a beta trait, so they seem non-threatening. Please clarify - the old me used to smile at people all the time like Howdy Doody - and it just made me look and feel like a fake douche beta. Also, an alpha shouldn’t be “checking out” chicks all the time, so eye contact is rare, wouldn’t you say? - if we aren’t looking at every girl that walks by, we aren’t making a lot of eye contact by default. Like let’s say a guy walks past a 10 babe at a health club, and doesn’t even check her out or acknowledge her existence at first, isn’t that better than doing the typical smile and eye contact behavior? I always would smile and give strong eye contact as as a beta, but it seemed that this behavior just assured the chick she was hot, almost like a verbal compliment on her looks. Thanks, Derrick JD’s Answer Hey Derrick, Good questions. It shows you are paying attention. But let’s not make this harder than it is. There are a million reasons for a man to smile. When it comes to women, I generally advocate to my students - especially those who have trouble meeting women or are just starting out - to smile. A lot. You have to realize that most men who...

Approaching and Getting Phone Numbers

Tips for Getting Her Number It’s hard for any of us to swallow the big pill of rejection. The fear of rejection will immobilize and shut down the best of the best. It’s so powerful that most men allow it to stand in the way of approaching a beautiful woman; because they’re too afraid of the possibility of being rejected. If you’re serious about meeting new women - and lots of them - you must learn to take rejection in stride and not let it stop you in your tracks. For every woman that rejects you, you’re one woman closer to finding your perfect match. So when you get turned down simply move on to the next one. Sure - sounds easy. But in reality it’s hard….right? Wrong. What you are sitting there thinking about is how it would be if you got rejected - without actually saying anything to her. And this thought of how it would be is way, way worse than it actually is. And how do I know? Because I live it. All the time. When I started out trying to meet new women, I was “rejected” 10 times more than I succeeded. And it was no big deal. In fact, it was how I got good. Really good. The best way to get good at talking to women is to… talk to women. Think about it as you would, say, hitting a baseball. You can read about it. Think about it. Get coached on it. All kinds of things that have to do with hitting a baseball. But until you actually get in the batter’s box and start swinging - you won’t ever get good. And...