Instead, take all the pressure off of both of you.
No friend zone for you…
Usually it just means you made a mistake somewhere, and mistakes are fixable. Flakes happen to everyone at some time or another.
Most of the so-called Dating Gurus out there play on this very theme. They hit you in the insecurity and know that you are struggling for what to say to women. So they tell you – “I know exactly what to say! And I’ll teach you!”
But nothing pretentious or too big and fancy. Nothing you haven’t done in a million years, otherwise the situation turns too foreign and weird even for you, and chances of relaxing, and having a nice conversation get killed pretty much… it turns awkward.
Because women absolutely don’t respect a man who they can boss around. Even if it is through use of one of their classic manipulation tactics.
I need to dispel this notion of the first date being so important, and, for most men, nerve wracking.
So, anyway, they call me and they want to know how to get their ex back. And they are thinking that I’ll talk to them for 5 or 6 minutes and give them my 3 best lines and their problem will be solved.
But those guys who get “lost” in the fantasy start to think that they can win these women over. How? By being their friend, their regular customer, a big tipper, a big complimenter and ultimately a big sucker.
You can’t eat. You can’t sleep. You feel this pit in your gut 24 hours a day. You just know she’s with him. You are driving by his place, her place, her work… This will fucking kill you. Sure as shit
And it has very very little to do with how a man looks. Sure, looks are important. In fact, every little detail of your life is what adds up to whether or not this or that woman is attracted to you.