the "nothing serious" conversation

[J.D.]

The following is part of a consult I did yesterday, thought it belonged here. If you want more info on this tactic, write to me.


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note - you mentioned dreading the "i don't want anything serious" conversation.

My take is to always, always mention that up front, day one, conversation one.

Most often women will say, yeah, that's cool, me too. Afterall, you just met. Who's gonna get pissed about that? In fact, it makes perfect sense.

I like to throw in,

"I'm dating around a little, nothing serious. But I could see myself getting serious with the right woman."

Lots of DHV here, social and sexual awareness, and lets her know you have other chicks (social proof) and not to mention gives her the "chance" to be the "right woman" which she may damn well just try to show you she is.

Later on - when she wants to know why this isn't more serious, you are covered. You already told her.

And, if you don't want a GF, don't treat her like one.

[Cool Breeze]

Heh, I did the exact, "Im seeing a few girls right now, nothing serious though." and it followed with txt messages and missed calls to my phone. hahahaha

[Josh305]

girls usually automatically know im a player, so i dont do this at all

[J.D.]

Originally Posted by Josh305

girls usually automatically know im a player, so i dont do this at all

it's great when you can exude the confidence that lets a woman know she always has to work to be with you.

Not every guy is like that. Good for you, though, Josh. Good stuff.

The situation I was describing was a direct response to part of a consultation I was doing - most guys naturally want to date more than one woman, and don't know how to go about it. In addition, they get bogged down with one woman and she starts acting like a girlfriend, and then there's not much they can do at that point - because they don't have the confidence or integrity to say this stuff up front.

Hence, they come to me and say, "i'm stuck with this one girl" or "I'm dreading telling her I don't want to be serious".