Deciding to end a relationship is a tough decision.
You might feel relieved once you finally do it, but what if you think you’ve made a mistake? It’s a chilling feeling when you’ve talked yourself into ending things, only to realize you might have given up on a good thing.
If you think you might have made the wrong decision, you have to do some soul-searching to figure out if you made the right choice. Maybe you did choose to do the wrong thing, but you could be trying to avoid the realities of being single.
Sometimes attempting to get her back is the right thing to do, but it could be best to move on. Do these things next if you think you’ve made a mistake.
Give It Some Time
If you immediately regret the breakup as soon as it’s over, don’t rush into anything. You won’t look good if you turn around straight away and start begging to be taken back.
You need some time to reflect back on the relationship and the reasons you chose to end it. As soon as something is over, people can have a tendency to remember only the good things. Take time to think about why you decided to end the relationship in the first place.
You could write down the pros and cons of the relationship and of ending it. You might find that feeling a bit lonely sometimes is much better than constantly fighting with your girlfriend.
Ask the Big Questions
There are lots of questions you can ask yourself to decide whether you were right or wrong to initiate the breakup. For example, do you love her or do you just like the idea of being with her, instead of being alone?
What were all the reasons you broke up in the first place? If you went back to her, would the relationship look any different?
Get Outside Advice
It can be difficult to rely on your thoughts and feelings alone. You’re so wrapped up in the relationship that you can’t look at it objectively. It’s a good idea to go looking for independent advice in this case.
Other people might be able to give you a better perspective, so you know if your view is clouded.
Try to Get Her Back
If you’ve decided that you did make a mistake, the next question is whether to get her back. You can admit you were wrong but chalk it up to a lesson learned, or you can try to fix it.
If you want to repair your mistake, you can find some great advice to get her back online. Ask friends and family too to see if they have any experience doing the same.
But it’s probably best not to get your advice from movies. Playing music outside her window in the middle of the night probably isn’t going to help.
It’s not uncommon to regret a breakup, even when you were the one who ended things. But it’s essential not to rush into taking it back. Give it some thought before doing anything rash.