Making First Dates Comfortable for YOU
Whether you’ve finally convinced a long-term crush to date or swiped right on Tinder doesn’t matter. The first date is a major incident that could signal the start of your future.
As such, it comes with a lot of pressure, and that’s mainly because you’ll spend the whole time trying to please the other person. Let’s switch things up; let’s concentrate on you.
Before we start, it’s important to realize that the dating experience isn’t all about you. Of course, it’s imperative that you make them feel comfortable too.
Having said that, if you’re having a good time, it should rub off on them. Ultimately, that has to increase your hopes of forming a special bond.
Even if it doesn’t, at least you’ll have had a good time. Here’s what you need to do.
Look The Part
Most blokes wrongly assume that dressing to impress is for the benefit of the other person. But looking good makes us feel great, and it can give us an added boost of confidence too. If that isn’t an incentive, what is?
The dress code is largely dependent on the occasion. After all, you don’t want to wear a suit if you’re simply going to the cinema.
At the same time, you don’t want to sell yourself short – smart casual will usually do. Meanwhile, finding the best smelling cologne for men will ensure that you make a winning first impression.
Besides, how can you expect another person to find you attractive if you don’t even care enough to invest in your look?
Remove The Stress
Preparing for a first date can feel a little daunting, especially when it’s with someone that you think you genuinely like. Seriously, though, what’s the worst that can happen?
Even if you screw it up, it’s not the end of the world. Change the mindset by keeping it casual, and you’ll be far less likely to be overwhelmed by those negative thoughts.
Apart from anything else, it’s far easier to strike a winning relationship when the surroundings are less stifling.
I’m not suggesting that you be selfish and take your date to something she/he will hate. But doing something you love will give an added insight into whether there’s a connection.
And if you’ve had fun, even a failed date won’t be a wasted afternoon/evening.
Regardless of what the date involves, there’s nothing worse than being bored. Indecisiveness can lead to frustrations for both parties. Even if you don’t have things mapped out, it’s important that you have confidence and authority at all times.
Being assertive doesn’t have to stop the date being casual and enjoyable, but it will prevent the feelings of being lost. Of course, it’s important to listen to your date.
However, there’s nothing worse than spending time with someone that doesn’t have anything to say for themselves. Be ready to speak and share stories too.
From a totally selfish point of view, being in control helps you guide the date towards ideas and activities that you’ll actually enjoy.
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