Confidence Tips for that First Date

by | Aug 21, 2017 | Exclusive Tips Articles |

Confidence is sexy. It’s a quality that attracts many women. However, it can be hard to appear confident on a first date when you are incredibly nervous.

Especially if it’s a date you’ve been looking forward to for a while and you’re eager to impress. Here are some great ways to boost your confidence so you go into the date feeling your best.

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For now, here’s a few quick tips that have always helped me.


Knowing you look your best can help you to feel more confident. Get a haircut, buy a new suit and take your time to get ready. Investing in a good shaver can help you to look and feel great, check out for the best options.

Talk to some female friends. Ask for specific things they recommend. You’d be surprised - some of us never knew we had that one little hair sticking out of the top of ear that makes women go “ewwwww”.

It’s the grooming details that will set you apart. With a very few exceptions - most men are decent-looking or at least average. So set yourself apart by being crisp and sharp. It will also fill you full of tons of confidence.

Have you ever just run out really quick to go to the store, haven’t showered, shaved etc…got flip flops on and mis-matched clothes….

How confident does that make you feel?

On the other hand - when you “get ready” - don’t you just KNOW you’re looking good?


Exercise will release endorphins, serotonin, and adrenaline. All of which will help you to release some nervous energy, relax, feel happy and be more confident. If you’re short on time just go for a quick run or do some stretches before you get ready.

When you know you’ve been working out - you start to brim with confidence. It never fails.

Give Yourself a Pep Talk

Sit yourself down and have a chat. Remind yourself of all of your positives. You’re not perfect, but no one is, you have got lots of qualities to offer, so remember them.

If you need to, write a list of everything you like about yourself or ask a friend or family member what they like. Your mum is a great option!

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Let Go of Expectations

When we go into a date with high expectations, we put pressure on ourselves and on the date itself. Stop doing this. Instead, just see it as a fun night out and take it from there.

People get so hung up on the outcome of events that they miss the whole event.

Remember, She Feels the Same

Remind yourself that you’re not the only one feeling like this. The person you are meeting will also be nervous and worried. You being confident and relaxed will help ease their nerves straight away.

She will take her cues from you.

If you’re nervous - she’ll pick up on it an be nervous too.

Take Some Deep Breaths

Just before you leave for the date, stop. Take some deep breaths and relax. If you are feeling very nervous, try clenching and unclenching your fists to release some energy. Take your time.

I do this one all the time. I dunno why - but it just works.

Stand Tall

Standing tall, with your head held high will make you look confident and in control, even if you don’t feel it. You never know, you may start to believe it yourself.

This is body language 101. Does wonders for your look and confidence.


Laughter is a fantastic way of relieving tension and creating a relaxed atmosphere. So, as soon as you arrive, find something to laugh about. Even if it’s just a silly joke, it will break the ice and calm you both down.

I have a couple I always use.

Be Yourself

Remember to be yourself. She must have seen something in you that appealed to her, or you wouldn’t have got the date. Too many people spend the first few dates portraying a persona that isn’t there own to impress. Then the relationship moves forward, they drop the persona and the relationship ends with them wondering what went wrong. Be yourself from the very start. If it works out, great. If it doesn’t, she’s not the one.

While confidence is sexy, arrogance isn’t. So, make sure you don’t try too hard. Remember to have some fun and enjoy yourself. Good luck!