3 Tips for Building Unshakable Confidence
You’ve heard it a million times, and you’ll probably hear it a million more, but there’s no getting around the fact that confidence is one of the keys in getting attractive women to pay attention to you.
Good looking guys are a dime a dozen, and many of them are so hung up on their own insecurities that they fail miserably with the opposite sex.
Being well-dressed obviously helps as well, but no tailored suit or set of shirt stays is enough by itself to turn you into a babe magnet.
Meanwhile, everyone knows of at least one guy who’s punching above his weight due to his sharp, confident personality and approach to life.
Here’s a look at a few easy tips that you can begin implementing today in order to boost your confidence and, therefore, your luck with the ladies.
Detach yourself from your thoughts
100% of confidence issues are born in the mind, and do their damage there. You could make the argument that some traumatic childhood experience, or rejection, or bad twist of fate was the reason for your poor confidence, but that’s just skirting around the issue.
By making that argument, all you’d really be saying is that some external event triggered the series of negative thoughts which then contributed to making you less confident than you could have been.
The entire thing still plays out in your mind at the end of the day. The key to generating confidence, regardless of all outside factors, rests in being able to get strong, empowering thoughts circulating in your subconscious mind, and in being able to detach yourself from the negative ones.
That probably sounds like advice to win triple gold in the Olympics, considering how tough it is for most people to distance themselves from their thoughts.
Luckily, though, there is one straight-forward, time-honoured tradition that trains that exact skill. It’s been used by Arnold Schwarzenegger and Bruce Lee. That skill is meditation. Seriously, sign up to a site like Headspace and see why it gets all the hype.
Respect your own desires and opinions
Many non confident people obsess over everyone else’s thoughts and desires, while paying virtually no mind at all to their own. This is usually an unconscious process, and those caught in this negative pattern would often deny it outright, but the proof is in the pudding.
If you’re heavily concerned with the impression you make on everyone around you, if you’re constantly worrying that you may have offended or annoyed someone, if you’re easily embarrassed, these are all signs that you’re valuing everyone else’s desires and opinions well above your own.
Confident people don’t spend all their time anxious that they may have looked like an idiot to someone while wearing their favourite outfit out, or flirting at a bar. The reason is because they respect their opinion at least as much as everyone else’s.
It’s not the easiest mental shift to make, but it’s worth it. Next time you’re out in public, remind yourself that your opinion is as important as anyone else’s.
Get physically active
Today, many of us spend far too much of our time sitting around in cubicles, or in front of screens at home. But human beings evolved to feel at their best in situations which involve regular outdoor time and physical activity.
Get back in touch with your inner caveman by lifting some weights. The testosterone surge will naturally have a positive effect on your confidence, as will seeing your body transform over time.
Getting outdoors, into nature, and going on hikes will not only strengthen your cardiovascular system, it’ll also get you a healthy dose of vitamin D from the sun, which in turn will improve your hormone profile even more.