Do’s and Don’t’s For Date Conversation

by | Jan 4, 2018 | Exclusive Tips Articles |

You’ve managed to approach a woman you like, started a conversation, got her number, and finally bagged yourself a date. Excellent!

Once you’ve decided on where you’re going to take her and what you’re going to wear, you need to think about how to entertain her so that you actually have a chance of getting a second date.

Below are some excellent dos and don’ts to help guide your first date conversations, so that when you kiss her goodnight, she’s actually considering giving you a call the next day.

Remember - this is just a few quick pointers - to become a master conversationalist, you need to check out our Complete Conversation Technique audio class.

Don’t talk money

The first rule to coming across well on a date is to avoid the subject of money. Don’t brag about how much you earn, how much you spend on material possessions, or how you got a great deal on Bitcoins using a Genesis Mining Discount code. A confident and controlled man does not brag, he quietly and confidently radiates power and wealth.

You want to avoid the kind of woman who is only after the contents of your wallet, so keep the contents secret until you are sure she is interested in who you are. If she brings the subject up, be polite but vague.

If she continues to probe about how much you earn (or indeed how much she earns), this is a strong indicator that she is more interested in the things you can buy her than she is about you as a person, and so you should distance yourself from her.

Do talk Aspirations

Don’t feel stuck to talk about the here and now. Talk to her about where you see yourself in the future and what you want to accomplish. Do you want to go traveling?

Do you see yourself with children in ten years time? Do you want to take up a hobby when you have more free time? Tell her what path you see your life traveling down. Ask her about her plans too, and make sure you listen.

Read this instruction carefully: Make sure you listen; don’t just wait for your turn to talk. By paying attention to her and remembering what she says, you are showing her that you value her time and her input.

Don’t talk about your ex or other women

If you’ve played the field for a while, or had a bad relationship not long ago, don’t discuss it. If she brings the conversation topic up, address it in reasonable detail, then move the conversation along.

Don’t talk for twenty minutes straight about how your ex was emotionally manipulative, or how all the ladies were queuing up for you. Would you want to hear that from her? Equally, don’t bring up her past if you think it may be too personal at this stage in your relationship or it seems to bother her. What happened in the past should have no bearing on your current relationship, you are interested in the person stood in front of you, not who they used to be.

Do talk about her

This has been touched upon in the other sections, but it deserves underlining. Ask her questions. Find out not just what she is (job, education, family etc.) but who she is. What does she do for fun? What are her aspirations and goals? What books, films, bands etc. does she enjoy.

Have some questions prepared so that if the conversation lulls you can rekindle it be asking her a question. Although, you should avoid making her feel like she’s being interrogated.

There you have it, a few helpful pointers to get you through the awkward first few dates of getting to know each other. Remember to stay in control of yourself and think before you speak, and you should be fine.

Remember - this is just a few quick pointers - to become a master conversationalist, you need to check out our Complete Conversation Technique audio class.