Why You Need Confidence In Your Style
Ever noticed how when people up their style they become more confident? Such a simple practical change can completely change the way other people perceive them, which in turn, means they have more internal confidence as a result.
It’s just like when someone loses weight or starts building muscle, they become more confident, and this confidence in reinforced when they get more positive attention, which creates even more confidence.
In many ways confidence is like a snowball, in that, the more confidence you have the more confidence you attract, and when you have confidence in your personal style you exude a sense that you own yourself, like an alpha male that fully accepts and likes yourself just the way you are.
The interesting thing about what we wear is that it’s one of the core areas we are most judged on. Indeed, there’s a part of your brain known as the reticular activating system which essentially scans the room and people in order to form judgements - this intelligent system that is constantly scanning for things to alert you to is responsible for your survival.
This makes more sense if you think back to the days of caveman days, as this part of your brain would always be on the lookout for danger, subconsciously scanning your surroundings, to determine whether there were any subtle clues to alert the rest of your brain to the risk of danger.
Today, we don’t need to use this part of our brain to work out whether we are about to be eaten up by a dinosaur; but it is still a very active and fundamental part of our psychology that looks for subtle clues when dealing with people as to who that person is.
This part of the brain is often looking for incongruencies and determining what their physique or appearance infers about that person on a subconscious level.
The point is, we all judge and are judged on our external appearance, and a large part of that is based on the clothes we choose to wear and the style we portray to the outside world.
Whatever you choose to wear the most important thing is to have confidence in your choice, as someone feeling awkward and uncomfortable due to not feeling good about their clothes is like waving a red flag above you, on a subliminal level.
Indeed, some people look like they chose their outfit from a mens halloween costumes catalogue, yet if they feel comfortable in what they are wearing and exude confidence they will be able to pull off whatever unique style they choose to pursue.
The two fundamental principles to having more confidence with your style are to dress in a way that expresses who you are according to your own tastes and preferences rather than by following the trends of the day, or wearing what you think you should wear in order to fit in; and secondly, you want to make sure what you’re wearing is comfortable enough to allow you to relax.