How To Avoid A First Date Nightmare
No matter how much you try and convince yourself otherwise, first dates are always a nervous time. It doesn’t make a difference if it’s your first date ever or just your first date with a new woman - the nerves are always there! Mostly, we’re nervous because we don’t want to mess things up and make a fool out of ourselves. T
he last thing we want is a first date nightmare that’s both embarrassing and gives our confidence a massive whack in the nuts. As such, I’ve got some exclusive dating tips for you to take a look at in this piece. I’ll be going through all the things you should take note of to avoid a first date nightmare.
Make Sure You Look Fresh
Clearly, different girls are into different styles in different men. Having said that, there’s one thing every girl wants to see in a guy they’re meeting for the first time; freshness. This isn’t some quirky word that you use to describe yourself, I’m talking about literally looking and being fresh.
You should attend your first date freshly showered, with your hair nice and washed, and any facial hair kept as neat as can be. Ideally, your date’s first thought when they see you is that you look good and scrub up well - rather than that you seem a bit trampy! Personally, I think it’s a good idea to get a fresh haircut before your date as well, just to make sure you look extra clean and crisp.
Think about trying out a particular style as well to make more of an impression. Things like the Caesar haircut are good because you have the clean fade and fringe combination. Even if you’re just getting a quick shape up, it’s better than nothing because you visibly look a lot fresher and more clean cut. I’m not saying you need short hair to win over your date, even guys with long hair can benefit from a quick trim to just tidy things up a bit!
Don’t Make It All About You
The chat that you bring to the table is probably the most important aspect of a date. Some girls can overlook a scruffy appearance if you back it up with some great chat.
So, first and foremost, make sure you have a few ideas for topics to talk about. Most of the time, you start talking about things, and then the conversation just naturally moves on its own. But, you may get awkward pauses where you need to initiate another talking point. One of the worst things you can do in this situation is to turn the focus of the conversation on yourself. This gives off such a bad first impression as it seems like you’re trying to make everything about you. Y
our date will walk away thinking to herself ‘wow, we pretty much just spoke about him the whole time’. No one will like this as you look like a self-centered douche. Instead, try asking her questions and getting to know more about your date. Avoid making things about you unless she wants to know things.
This ensures you can have a good chat with your date and not give off the impression that you only care about yourself.
Take It Slow
Remember, this is your first date with a girl that you may have never met before in your life. Loads of guys meet up with women they find on Tinder or other dating apps, so you’re essentially seeing a stranger for the first time. The last thing you should do is try to speed the dating process along.
Just because a girl agreed to meet up over Tinder, that doesn’t automatically mean she wants you in her bed. She could just be meeting up with you to give you a chance, so don’t assume anything. Take things slowly on the date and avoid initiating anything unless it’s pretty blatant she wants it.
There’s nothing worse than going in for a kiss and awkwardly having your date pull away. This really isn’t something that should need explaining, but it happens all the time. At the end of the day, if you play your cards right, then all the sexual stuff will come after a few more dates at the right pace.
Don’t try and speed things along as this puts unwanted pressure on your date, and it could leave you feeling redfaced in a bar on your own after she runs away.
If you read through all the advice I’ve laid out in this piece, then you should avoid a first date nightmare. By doing this, you may even secure a second date, and possibly even a third!