Secrets Alpha Males Don’t Want You To Know

by | Mar 20, 2015 | Alpha Male Articles |

Dating and Relationship Tips

JD Dallas

The real, successful alpha males don’t want anyone else to know their secrets.

Read on for the Modern Male Lifestyle’s top alpha male traits. These secrets of the alpha male are common to all natural leaders and men who ooze confidence. Study the characteristics below - and ask youself which ones you may be lacking, and then think of ways you can incorporate them into your life and lifestyle.

Why is this important?

The alpha is the “top dog” in a dog pack (or the “top animal” in any group of animals, like the “top monkey” in a monkey troop).

According to biologists, the alpha male gets “priority access to limited resources.”

That means he gets the best food. That means he get the hottest females.

It’s priority access. The other guys have to wait their turn in line… if they get a turn at all.

If you’ve wondered about how all this works, how the alpha operates, then read on.

Let me start by stating these top 10 traits –

An Alpha Male…

Never Qualifies Himself:
Qualifying yourself means looking for approval from others - caring too much about what they think.

The alpha male makes no apologies, he doesn’t explain his behavior. He is completely comfortable in his own skin so he doesn’t need to explain anything to anybody. Alpha’s don’t boast about their success or try and prove anything – again they don’t need to; they assume you will like them simply because other people do, but they don’t care if you don’t. Don’t chase after validation, you don’t care.

Talks Slow:
Did you ever notice that when you talk to someone you look up to you will talk faster?

Talking fast is a way to qualify yourself to someone. Why? The research shows you are worried they will stop listening or find some more interesting things to do. So the conclusion betas make is to get your point out quick so they will listen.  But know this  – it actually has the opposite effect, and it shows your lower status.

When you talk slower - you exude confidence. And - it creates suspense…people start to hang on your every word.

Doesn’t Look Around:
An alpha is the party and the focus of attention – he is unconcerned with what other people are doing. Constantly looking around a room or club, acting squirrely and uncomfortable is beta body language. Eyes forward - horizon level. Focus in on whomever you are speaking with.

Is The Focus of Attention:
Watch and alpha male in a group. How do you know who he is? He is centrally positioned in the group, everyones body language faces him and is positive towards him. In your mind - expect to be the focus and position yourself to be so, step up within your group and you will start to take on this dominant role. The rest of the group will fall into place as most people are looking to be led.

Takes The Glory:
When someone tells a funny joke, and Alpha will take it one further and steal the laugh. When someone else has an idea they acknowledge it and add to it – giving their approval and tweaking the idea it becomes their own, and they get the credit for it. Also look for alphas to be the ones handing out the praise - when somebody does something cool, it’s not cool until the Alpha says, “That was cool.”  But don’t over-do it. A real casual, “Yeah…that’s cool,” is enough. Because alphas…..

Is Never Impressed:
They can be self centered and unimpressed with the achievements of others. They are high achievers themselves and strive for success so they have seen it all before – it takes a lot, or a really high value to impress them – they have high standards on every level.

Enjoys a Challenge:
They enjoy making friends with beta males, but with another alpha guy they often become “enemies”. The alpha male needs to be the alpha at all times and will compete with another male for the dominant position – if he is really the alpha male he will enjoy this opportunity.

Doesn’t  Answer Questions:
This is my favorite. Alphas often give a non-sensical or a basic response to questions you ask them where you are trying for conversation, trying to find common ground, or trying for rapport – by asking you to “guess” they are controling the frame and leading the interaction and keeping their alpha male status.

“So…what do you do for a living?”
“Huh? Oh…I’m and underwear model.”

Doesn’t Care About You:
Alphas are by definition self focused. So the betas are there to entertain them. An alpha believes world evolves around him and everyone is there to help him, entertain him or sleep with him – as he chooses. Just try thinking of people, places and things this way…see if it doesn’t change your attitude, outlook and success.

Can Show A Nicer Side - and Get Away With It:
This goes back to not caring what people think. Contrary to popular belief - and alpha can be nice / genuine / down to earth if he wants to. And get this - on the occasions that he is he gets even more credit for it. Why? Because people don’t expect it but secretly hope for it. So when it happens, they are pleasantly surprised. Unlike a beta - he isn’t a geek trying to be nice for validation, he is a cool guy who has a down to earth side - sometimes.

I also call this - “throwing them a bone” once in a while.

Is Comfortable In His Own Skin:
Ultimately an alpha is comfortable within his own skin, this is one of the the main alpha male characteristics, and if you can be comfortable in your own skin then everything else will follow. An alpha doesn’t care what people think, he is assertive enough to give his own opinion, and he is happy and confident in any situation.

These 10 traits are just scratching the surface of what it means to be alpha, and what it’s like in the alpha lifestyle. This list is not a miracle cure, but is should open your eyes to what a little Modern Male Lifestyle training can do to rewire your mind to take on the characteristics of the alpha male. The one that gets all the women.

It’s been our experience here that every man who has seriously tried our audio training and coaching suggestions will start to believe in the messages more and more and quickly become the alpha male.

When it comes to women and your success with women - there’s nothing you can do that is more effective than becoming alpha.

Here’s some bonus traits for you - these are just some of what we teach and have success with:

The alpha male knows that women are a secondary goal, never a primary goal. Women and sex are important, but not the focus of his life. Women will be the side benefit of a life that is fully lived and confidently navigated. An alpha man never does favors or buys things for a woman in order to earn her approval.

This core teaching alone will transform your life. It’s a very detailed tactic and mindset - one that you can easily learn.

This is another core alpha attitude:

The alpha male isn’t possessive or jealous, because he isn’t needy. He doesn’t smother women and he doesn’t put them on a pedestal. He believes that any woman would be lucky to have him and if he gets rejected, it’s her loss, not his.

Here is something you can learn from right away - keep in mind always that for an alpha male, time is important – he is a busy man, he has places to go and people to see. He doesn’t have time to wait for a woman more than 15 minutes when she’s late. Boom - you are gone, and she must find you. By the same token, he doesn’t wait on the phone if she puts him on hold. He knows that time is a valuable asset and never wastes it. Those are just a few basic ways to demonstrate this.

Of course there are many, many more - all detailed and taught in-depth in the Modern Male Lifestyle audio programs:

  • The Alpha Life - Volume 1
  • The Alpha Life - Volume 2
  • A Man’s Guide to Understanding Women
  • The Alpha GPS System
  • The Alpha Mental Makeover

(Get all of these audios in one package at a big discount here)

So let me wrap this up by saying, the alpha male forgives himself for his failures and he knows that failure is a part of life. The only men who do not fail are those that do not try.

Success is just a few failures away. If you want to learn more about the alpha male characteristics and traits, consider personal coaching with me or get one of our audio sets.

The real, successful alpha males don’t want anyone else to know their secrets. And why should they?

Have you ever seen or been in a group of men competing for a woman’s attention? You’ve probably noticed them showing off, blocking each other, and generally all trying to be the center of attention - which usually makes them look like a big dope.

Then from out of the blue, a man who is not involved in the competition comes up and says a few words…then walks off with the woman. Of course - the man who walked off with the woman was the alpha male. We see it all the time. And guys like me, Johnny Bravo, and most of my students are the ones who are walking off with the women.

And if you are trying to become an “alpha male” yourself, the odds are that the real “alpha males” are laughing at you. Why?

Because there is so much bad advice out there - the kind of stuff that has men using false tactics, pushing other guys around and ending up looking 100 percent Beta and not Alpha at all. When you worry about competing against other men you actually make yourself less alpha. You instantly lose the competition. And that man who comes up out of the blue and walks off with that hot woman, while everyone else is competing and showing off and trying to look tough, is not caught up in “trying to be ’alpha’.”

Sound confusing? It can be - but it’s not.

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JD
jd@modernmalelifestyle.com

Most men come to me asking for help on “picking up girls” or they have a problem with “this one girl”.

And while I talk to them about all those things, the really successful men ultimately figure out they need to change themselves to be great in all areas of life - including with women.

J.D. Dallas

Dating Coach, Modern Male Lifestyle

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