|Not every guy’s fantasy is to sleep with a stripper. But if you’re reading this, you’ve at least thought about it. And you’re probably wondering if it can be done.
Well, yes – of course it can. They are sleeping with some body, right? And strippers – or exotic dancers – are extremely sexual women. Play your cards right, and you can experience just how intense these women can be when it comes to pleasing a man.
And, of course, play them wrong, and you’ll end up in the poor house. You see, there are three types of guys who go to strip clubs (or “gentlemen’s clubs” as you’ll hear them called).
There’s the guy who may have been to a club a total of 3 or 4 times in his life, usually with a group of guys on a night out, or for a buddy’s bachelor party.
Then there’s the serial suckers. The guys who simply can’t get a woman and they frequent clubs and fall “in love” all the time with the girls. They are regulars, and they may even have a special girl they are trying to “help” out.
And there’s also a third group of men. A very small, skilled group of guys who see strip clubs as a pick up joint. And they date strippers all the time and don’t spend a dime on them. Since that third group is incredibly small, it’s safe to say that unless you’ve never set foot into one of these places, you fall into group one or group two – or maybe a little in between.
And no matter what group you are in – you had to have had that feeling that yes, you’d love to get between the sheets with at least one of these girls. And why not? That’s now men are wired. We are extremely attracted to the visual nature of a woman. We’re suckers for beauty and sexuality. It’s in our DNA. And, of course, the strippers – and the club owners – know this. That’s why the booze is flowing, the lights and music are set for seduction and every woman working that night is walking around almost naked and bending and stretching all over the place.
What’s not to like? Well – I’ll tell you. A lot.
Few men ever have the mindset – the right mindset – of walking into a strip club and thinking they realistically have a chance with one of these women. They don’t because they KNOW it’s fantasy. They know they are being sold a bill of goods, willingly.
Sometimes, for that one group of men called the suckers, they lose sight of this and start to think these women really do like them. And nothing could be further from the truth.
Most “dancers” actually hate the customer-type guy and the sucker-type guy. Why? Because these guys represent everything that’s wrong with men: they are pigs and losers. And even more so, most dancers don’t like to think of themselves as “strippers.” And they hate these guys because they come in to the clubs and treat them like, well, strippers. And there’s the old saying, “if the shoe fits….”
All the girls have a long list of raps and games they pull on you once you come in - all designed to seperate you from your money. And yeah - that’s the deal. Most of us know that.
But those guys who get “lost” in the fantasy start to think that they can win these women over. How? By being their friend, their regular customer, a big tipper, a big complimenter and ultimately a big sucker.
Aside from the 1500 or so a night these girls make - they really get their lifestyle money from these dolts. These guys want to be the white knight. They care for her, give her gifts, cars, money, pay their bills….everything.
But that’s not why we’re here - per se. It’s important to know that you can’t get a girl from a club this way. You will only end up broke and broken hearted.
Now - the strip club “game” for the regular guy is, like we said, a fantasy. All natural indicators suggest that there is the promise of sex. She approaches you. She’s half naked already. She smells great. The lights are low, the music’s playing – she’s gyrating all over you and she seems like she really likes you! And it’s all for show. It’s all bullshit. And most of you know that.
And sadly, a lot of guys don’t. They’ve never had a woman – let alone a very hot, sexy woman – give them any attention. And boom – they can go to a club any night of the week and get all that attention. For a price. And of course a quick drive home to watch some porn and jack off – alone.
Keep in mind, friends, that this is business and job to these women. They are there to make money. And they know how. Before you walked in they’ve taken a ton of cash from a ton of guys and you are simply “next”. They are at work. And you are the customer.
Now, I could go on about the vicious nature of the game these women play on men. That first group of guys – the ones who have been to a club a few times in their lives – they’re the run-of-the-mill customers. They come in – have a good time – spend 200 bucks and leave.
But the ones who “fall” for the stripper – that’s her real customer. That’s the guy who pays her rent, buys her a car – all manner of things that most of us would think was insane. And the kicker is – he never gets sex from her. Ever.
Don’t believe it’s true?
I know there is somebody reading this now who has been down that path. Maybe you even know someone that it’s happened to. It’s a cruel and vicious game and it’s not to be entered into lightly. You have to be on your gaurd - always. And I know plenty of women who were or are exotic dancers (like the three who helped me put this report together) – and this is indeed the hard truth.
Now, not only have I dated my fair share of dancers (they like to be called that, by the way) I’m very close friends with a former dancer who advises me and my clients on the ways of the “club world”. I met her in New York, at a premier strip club called Scores. And you can call b.s if you like, but I have to tell you now it’s true. And I have at least 50 clients who either know her, know of her, or have been advised by her in coaching sessions.
And at the end of the day – what you really care about is the information we have to share with you. So my “friends” and I sat down and came up with some strip club “Do’s and Don’ts” – things you should do get these women interested in you, and things you shouldn’t do – ever- if you want to have a chance.
These girls are a great source of material, too. Afterall – they’ve worked on the other side of the fence, and they’ve dated lots of guys. And yes, guys they met in the clubs. And like I said, I’ve dated my share of strippers, too. So we know what we’re talking about her.
Some common misconceptions about strippers are that the girls will never date anyone they meet at work. Strippers are girls, first and foremost. They are willing to meet guys after work, if it’s going to be fun for them.
And not everyone of them is going to be easy. Some are difficult. Some are smart. Some are dumb. They represent a typical cross-section of women. And always remember - Yes, it can be done. Someone is sleeping with these girls – right? The best thing is to never be the “customer.”
Sure, the girls are looking to get your money. It’s their job. This is why you’ve got to flip the script, cause them to stop perceiving you as a customer, and make them play YOUR game instead of playing theirs. Put these Tactics to work, and you can build connections, collect phone numbers, and set up dates just as you would at a bar.
So let’s start off with a list shit not to do.
1. Don’t use a credit card at a strip club. Ever.
It shouldn’t be a surprise that you should never use credit cards in a strip club, yet so many suckers do it. And more than one man at some time in his life has been caught by this paper trail. Not to mention, there’s the huge possibility that you’ll end up spending more than you ever, ever should. Use cash.
If the bartender says you need a credit card to open a tab, make sure you tell her that you’ll be settling in cash. There are so many reasons we don’t need to go into them all here. Not the least, what are you going to do with $300 dollars worth of “Fanny Cash” when you leave?
2. Don’t concentrate on just one stripper.
Any businessman tell you that the key to success is to have multiple deals cooking at once. That’s Leverage and strip clubs are no different.
3. Avoid long, drawn-out conversations.
More than one man has fallen prey to “white knight” syndrome. And it puts you in total “customer” mode – which means she is in working mode. She has her set gambits and plan of attack – and the longer you let her get into it, the more you are seen as a target and not a boyfriend. This puts you at an extreme disadvantage.
4. Try not to call the place you are in a “strip club” or the girl a “stripper”.
5. Don’t dress like a schmuck.
Remember – every guy that walks in is the same to her – a customer. You want to be different.
6. Not bringing enough cash.
7. Don’t flash cash the wrong way.
9. Don’t act like all the other customer dorks.
It’s a great time to reinvent yourself – it’s all about escapism. It’s best not to let her know your name, or what you actually do for a living. Lie your ass off. After all, she is.
10. You purchase exactly no dances.
11. Don’t go with a big group of guys.
12. If we had to pick one mistake that is a “deal killer,” it’s not coming with the proper style
13.Never be the White Knight
Holy shit will she take you to the cleaners. It’s amazing how many men fall for this – and think they are “in love”. It’s akin to being in the friend zone with a woman – where you do everything for her and hang out with her, and never even get a kiss.
Only this is much more expensive and devastating. She will be sleeping with someone else, and you’ll be paying for the apartment they’re doing it in.
14. Another big mistake is asking her all kinds of questions about what it’s like to be a stripper.
You have to know the score and give off the impression you date these women regularly. So act like it’s no big deal to be in a Strip Club and to meet her after work. It goes back to the principle of “act as if.”
Those are the basics of what not to do. But let’s get to some fun stuff. How to get “in” with these girls and not lose your ass.
Okay, now, when you’re getting ready to go to the club, go rocking a nice suit – not the 9 to 5 kind, the nightlife kind. Your plan for the evening doesn’t just consist of going to a strip club. Eat a meal with friends or solo, drink wine…then roll to some other civilian night spots to get a feel for the night. If it’s a slow night, like a week night, hit up the strip club.
As far as arriving, you can typically get in free if you know all the key players. So as in our tips that follow, if you don’t already – get to know the security guy, the door guy, the dj, the bartender… etc. Stay away from the seats in middle of the club, and the front row. You should sit at the bar turned away from the stage and rap out with the bartender.
Trust us, the women will find you.
If the bartender is a stripper too, all the better. Your intention is to give off the vibe that you are the mysterious, well dressed, dashing, handsome, cool guy at the bar solo. As far as target selection, the ones that are working it hard – trying to run a lot of dances - are tough targets.
Try to find the ones that are more relaxed, more fun and want to party a little. Just read the energy and try to find a connection. Getting her to meet you later is usually a natural progression of the work put in. So read on.
Now, you’re probably thinking that, “okay – these girls are here to work…and if I’m not buying dances, they will move on…” There is certainly an art to saying “no” to dances. If a girl hits you up as an opener, just be polite and say “not now, I just got here” or “I’m waiting for someone,” etc. If a girl hits you up for a dance later in conversation, and she seems cool and someone you want to hook up with, offer up a drink.
Suggest that she go take “that guy’s” money and you will watch her style and game, and tell her to come back in a bit after she needs a break from that loser.
You need to realize you are taking up their time, and you don’t want to stop any girl from making money. An offer of a drink is often a great qualifier, if she doesn’t want that, she won’t want anything else from you. Also, getting a girl more buzzed up is only going to help your chances.
It really depends on the strength of the connection.
The city you are in plays a huge role, as well. When strippers get off work they often want to party more, or get something to eat. And that’s where you are more than willing to accommodate them. If you play it right, you’ll get them to come back to your room.
Remember – these aren’t your average women. Whenever at strip clubs always go for the same night lay whenever possible. Strippers lead busy, hectic lifestyles and they’re interacting with new guys constantly, so be looking to “close the deal” with a stripper sooner rather than later.
That being said, you can have a lot of success with getting girls’ numbers. You will rarely get fakes, although it happens to everyone.
Great after-work meeting spots are restaurants or bars that are still open, but the best place to meet is your crib or hotel—for obvious reasons.
So dress sharp and be feeling good and have a bankroll. You don’t need to spend it, but it helps to have the appearance of cash flow. And have fun. Don’t take it too serious. You are having topless girls hit on you – what’s not to love?
Go in with the correct mindset: you’ll possess an unfair advantage over 99% of the guys who visit strip clubs. I’m not a customer, I’m a guy who dates strippers. This is actually a great thing to tell her. When you find out her “name” – say, “Unbelieveable – I dated a dancer with that exact same name…”
Getting her to reveal some real details about herself is key, too. She is in “business” mode – and play acting. The more you can land her in reality, the more you get her off her game. One of my favorite lines is, “Okay, fuck that – so what is your real name?”
Try to take the conversation into deep, unexpected areas that build her curiosity and interest. You’ll be leading her down the path towards seduction. The reality is, strippers spend most of their time having tedious conversations with men who are completely predictable. So be unpredictable. Don’t reveal details about your self.
When you enter the club, walk around with your head held high—as if you’re best friends with the owner and you’ve gotten the VIP treatment at this joint a thousand times. Never sit by the stage (aka “pervert’s row”) or lurk around as if you’re unsure of where to sit. Find a comfortable seat, settle in, and get totally relaxed. The Bar is a good spot. Another great one is a loud corner near a speaker. Read on later for why.
When a stripper approaches you, don’t let her sit on your lap. Make her sit beside you. “Easy there, have a seat next to me—I’m not so sure about you yet.” You want to immediately put her in the position of having to “qualify” herself to you.
This will help you give her the sense that you’re a playful, ultra-confident guy who clearly has his pick of beautiful women. So the question in her mind becomes, what can she do to prove that she is worthy of being with you? Don’t agree if she immediately offers a dance. Use a the playful response like acting like she wants you to dance for her: “Are you sure you can afford me? I charge $100 for three songs, and no touching below the belt.” At this point, if you’re sitting near a speaker - tell her “let’s move somewhere quieter, I want to be able to hear you.”
It’s a great way to her out of her sales routine and put yourself in control of the interaction. It also shows that you are interested in what she actually has to say.
Guys in customer-mode sit there and let the strippers come over and work their routines on them; but in this scenario you are selecting a place for the two of you to go and get to know eachother. Big difference. When you bring her to another area of the club lead her there by the hand. It is key to not follow her or allow her to lead you anywhere. Basically, you are clearly showing dominant masculine behavior. Again, very “un customer” like.
Here’s a hard one – but a key one: Keep your eyes off of her body and maintain eye contact. And this leads to the next poing: Never comment on how good she looks, or how beautiful she is; if anything, downplay her looks a little and call her “kinda cute.”
Something along the lines of, “I can see why the customers here would like you. Sure,you’re kinda cute, but you also have this really cool positive energy and a really open personality.” This again throws her off her game and reinforces that you aren’t a customer – just a cool dude. And you aren’t impressed by her body. She may or may not be able to help to try and go back into her “sales routine.” So just smoothly shut it down and switch the conversation to something else. She’s got canned routines – so watch out for them.
She going to ask you stuff – so when she asks you your name, or where you’re from, use ridiculous, nonsense type responses. Thinks like you work for the CIA, as a cook. And your name is Michael Jordon. This will “short circuit” her routine, make her smile and she’ll realize that she’s dealing with a confident, original guy who is not a typical customer.
Get her Out of Work Mode
This is all part of getting her out of “work mode” and into “fun chat mode” where she gets real with you—and where a real seduction can occur.
Now, I’ve been saying “stripper” all throughout this report – but you need to be respectful of her profession. Never refer to what she does as“stripping.” She’s a dancer – get it? And she doesn’t work at a “strip club.” Call it a “club” or a “gentleman’s club.” Also, “chump customers” like to ask her about her job, whether she enjoys it, what it’s really like to be a stripper, etc. These women do not want to be defined as strippers and these types of questions will bore them at best, and piss them off at worst.
Tell her or imply that you’ve dated dancers before—or have dancer friends—and demonstrate familiarity with her profession. She needs to have the sense that you know the game and it’s no big deal. Hey we all have jobs. She’s got a job to do, just like you do, and what’s important is that you’re both cool, interesting, unique people who are hanging out together on a deep level.
All of this is going to help you to build “comfort and rapport.” And since you are comfortable with her, you can tease her, right? Right. Of course. “It’s too bad I swore off dating dancers, because I can tell you and I would get along.”
Another great line we’ve had success with is helping her see herself in a more positive light: “I get the sense there’s more to you than these customers would ever suspect…” – this makes her like you more than the guy who is drooling over himself throwing cash and dumb conversation at her.
That makes her feel less than she actually views herself. So play into her reality that she doesn’t see herself as a slut or a whore.
And here’s a big key to the whole club world: befriend the staff: bouncers, coat check, busboys, DJs, managers, owner, etc. Even if you have to spend your first visit or two just doing this – it’s very important.
You want to get to the point where when you visit, staff members should know and greet you. This gives you high social value in the eyes of the dancers; you’re not a typical customer. You’re an insider. You’re “ok”.
Befriending a male staff member is easy: smile and say, “Dude, you’re the envy of every guy—hanging out in a club full of beautiful women and getting paid for it. Where do I submit my resume? By the way, my name’s ______.”
Be prepared for these guys to complain about how working in a strip club and that it is anything bu ta dream job. But this gives you the opportunity to talk with them for a few minutes and not only make the connection but show the girls (who look at every guy who comes in) that you’re with the insider group.
Another good tactic: buy an energy drink or a bottle of water and bring it outside to the doorman: “Here bro, you’re probably thirsty out here…I just need to step out to make a phone call…by the way, my name’s ______, you guys are doing a great job with this club…bla bla fucking bla….”
You’re building up your social network so that when you return, you’ll be welcomed by the staff. When the strippers….er, dancers….see this, you score major points. Now they know you’re not a chump customer for them to run their silly routines on.
When you start hanging with her, the correct move is to buy a round of drinks for you and her. If the club isn’t busy at that time, this should give you enough time to work on her. And remember - You should never buy a dance right away, since this is customer behavior.
You may be asking if you should ever buy a dance from her. The answer is yes – but not for yourself. If you are with a buddy – or better yet with a woman – buy one for them. Another great time to do it is after you’ve used all the other tactics we’ve talked about – and only THEN do you have her dance for you. And here’s the kicker - ask her to sit down half-way through the song so that you can “critique” her performance.
Once again – throws her off her game, is fun, and frames you as an experienced player who doesn’t view her as an object of sexual fantasy, and understands her job in a way that no “customer” does.
While you can get phone numbers and set up dates with strippers…always try to get her that night whenever possible.
Most strippers I know will go somewhere after work to get something to eat, or have a few drinks and decompress. There are “stripper hangout spots” near the clubs where the girls go, but you might not know it because they are dressed very casually when they leave work.
This is where your friendship with other club insiders comes into play, too. They can let you in on where the girls hang, or where everyone goes after work. Your girl will probably invite you anyway at this point.
And know this - when strippers are having a drink after work, or running errands the next day, they try to downplay their sexiness because they don’t want customer-type dudes constantly trying to talk to them. It’s almost like their super-hero uniform and secret identity.
It might take a couple of visits for you to “close” the dancer you like getting her number, or meeting her after her shift. If you’re not buying dances, and she has to go, encourage her to go make money: “See how much you can take that fat guy for!” or leave all together with “I’ve got some business to go take care of. I see a lot of lonely guys in here who’d love to pay for your company—so I need to split.” “I’ll text you later about meeting at the spot so you can unwind and see my art collection.”
By the way - you need to have a nice “hook” for her to want to meet you later - just like with any woman. You may have heard this one before, but use a curiousity builder like the art collection - set it up early in your interaction. “You can come and see my art collection sometime, if you promise not to laugh…” and withhold any more information about it. Or, “You can come and meet my roommate sometime if you promise not to laugh….”
And your roommate ends up being a stuffed animal or teddy bear. Your art collection is a bunch of crayon drawings by kids. Whatever. “I would love to show you my aquarium…if you promise not to laugh…” and you get there and you have a goldfish in a bowl.
It sounds silly - and it is. But it works.
But it gets her imagination and curiousity going. This line of game, btw, works wonders on most regular girls in regular situations, too. And strippers are “regular girls” inside - so any game you got will work.
This one builds up all kinds of stuff in her head: “Why would I laugh? I can pass the test. Who is this mysterious guy with the mysterious roommate?” Sounds simple - but it’s effective.
You not only build up the curiousity factor, but you allow them to have a “reason” to come home with you that isn’t “hey, let’s go back to my place…” which is translated as: “let’s have sex”.
And these girls - like all girls - don’t go for the feeling that they are a slut. And you put yourself right out of the game when you reduce them to their body - which is what a customer does. And you aren’t a customer - you are boyfriend material.
Whatever your reason to get her to go with or meet you - it has to be compelling and not sexual in nature. But there has to be some reason that her life will be better and more fun - it can’t be just to “hang with you.” She’s doing that now.
Know that she can’t leave work early. Strippers need to complete their shifts. So for now, make your exit—in the same smooth, confident manner in which you entered.
And here is one of the greatest tactics I have ever come across - bring a woman to the club with you. Preferably one of your hot friends or a girlfriend. This has led to lots of great nights in my experience…I’ll just say that.
Buy dances for the girl you are with.
Guess what? The girls at the club love this. Almost every one of them is not only open to the idea of sex with a woman, they are probably openly bisexual. They love to sit and chat with the cool, hip couple who is out on the town. Get her number - meet her later. Text her pictures….this can lead quickly to that “other” fantasy a lot of men have…the threesome.
All the best - and wrap that thing, no matter what you do.