I saw an interesting quote today: “You think you don’t need a coach? Tiger Woods has three.” I was like, wow. That’s really amazing – and eye-opening. (hey…we’re talking about his dominant golfing here, btw… !)
It reminded me of something I have always said about women, too. And it is this: No matter how good you are, there’s always room for improvement. Think about that. Are you good in the sack? There’s always something new to learn. Approaching? No matter how often you do it, there is always a new situation and something that you learn from your experience.
Pick up lines, techniques, power moves…even if you know a million of them, somebody out there is trying out number “a million and one.”
When I first started getting this thing – the alpha attitude and mastering the art of picking up women – I was insatiable. Not in my desire for beautiful women, but in my thirst for knowledge about how to make the transformation from regular Joe to Master with dating and relationships.
I couldn’t get enough of it.
Unlike other types of knowledge – stuff for work, or school – it was weird how the more I really wanted to learn something the easier and more fun it was.
I’ve learned and experienced so much in this arena over the last decade that you may think I know it all. That I couldn’t possibly get any better. And nothing could be further from the truth.
Everyday when I leave the house, talk to my students, or sit down in the MML offices, I learn something new. Every interaction with every woman adds to my experience, expertise and knowledge. And I still feel like I did 10 or 12 years ago when I first started out. Some days, it seems like I don’t know anything at all – and nothing I know is any good at all. We all have days like that. In fact – I know there are two kinds of guys reading this newsletter right now.
Most of you know you aren’t at the level you want to be at – and that you’d love to be where I’m at. And there are guys reading this that know a lot about women, and are really frickin’ good at controlling them, picking them up, and being in charge of their relationships.
And to both types of men I say this: No matter your level of expertise, I know I can learn something from you. And, no matter your level of expertise, I know you can learn something from me. And some of you more than others.
It all comes down to your willingness not only to learn, but to make what I teach part of your lives. There are guys that I counsel weekly who just “don’t get it” because they listen and they understand, but they aren’t willing to do the work. And they can’t understand why they aren’t improving.
And I’ll tell you why – because knowledge is only part of the game. You can read and learn everything there is to know about, say, swimming, but until you get into the water you will never be able to swim.
Now, it may surprise you to learn that I have had dating coaches in the past. It’s true – and I was never embarrassed or shy about seeking them out. Some of them weren’t “official” coaches who did it for a living – just men I knew who were successful at this whole dealing with women thing.
The best thing that ever happened to me was taking the plunge to pick up the phone and call my first real coach. It immediately had an effect on me. I knew then I was doing something about my situation and not just accepting it. And that filled me with confidence.
Over the years I’ve tried just about every “tactic” and “technique” there is – and through it all, it helped me develop my own devastatingly effective philosophy and style. To the point where I’ve become a very successful dating coach myself.
I have men who call me every night of the week.
One of my favorite, and best clients, has long ago made the transition from beta to alpha male and is enjoying success beyond his wildest imagination – yet he still keeps me on retainer to talk for an hour every week. Like I said – no matter your level, there’s always room for improvement. And in a few instances, my students have advanced to the point where they are teaching me new things.
I honestly love what I do. The more I want to do something, the less it seems like work. And while it’s a lot time and effort to do what I do, It hardly seems like a job. Coaching, consultations, writing and producing audio programs, books, newsletters, seminars, running my business….and of course somehow I find time for the women in my life, too.
Maybe you’re not the kind of guy who feels comfortable with a dating coach. And perhaps it’s like the guy in that book “Green Eggs and Ham” – how do you know you don’t like it until you’ve tried it? If you’ve been wanting to pull the trigger and start talking to me – you can get over to my website and get two coaching sessions for the price of one right now. See if it is for you.
I’ll tell you this: I have helped 100’s of men, and have been doing this for years. I’ve run into everything you can think of.
- How do I get my ex back?
- How do I meet more women?
- Lack of confidence
- Nice guy syndrome
- Friend zone guy
- How do I bang the girl next door?
- There’s this “one girl….”
- Guys who have never been laid
- Guys who want to get laid even more…
- The girl at the checkout counter
- Guys who girlfriend or wife have all the power…
- And the list goes on.
And inevitably after three or four consultations, all types of men start to see a change in their lives…the ones that are willing to listen and put the time in don’t just “get their ex back” – they make an amazing transformation.
The transformation comes with their new attitude. Everything they thought about women and how to deal with them changes.
Women that seemed crazy now seem harmless and predictable.
And here is the big difference that you’ll see when you start your coaching – while most programs and coaches teach you this and that to say and do, they don’t give you the tools you need to get the new attitude.
And this is of major importance. Remember – learn all you can, and then use it. See what works for you and what doesn’t – develop your own style and become the ultimate dating machine you know you can be.
Have a great weekend friends. Look for more free tips in my next newsletter.
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