If you’re going out this weekend, tonight or any time - here’s 5 easy tips to give you the edge over your competition.
1. Be the Center of Attention
Want to be the one who gets noticed? Stand in the center of the room. According to Dr. Albert Mehrabian, the author of several books and nationally-known expert in the field of spacial psychology, where you are in a room (and what you’re doing) has a lot to do with your ability to attract the opposite sex.
Where should you be for the highest impact and the greatest number of interested cuties? Smack-dab in the center of the room, standing up and moving around a bit. But pacing around or acting squirelly is bad – it’s a beta male characteristic and is a sign of insecurity.
If you’re in a bar or nightclub, the best place to be is at one of the corners on the bar – the actual bar surface where drinks are served. It’s a major intersection and will draw notice from all angles coming and going. Not only will you meet more people, but, according to Mehrabian, bartenters tend to gravitate toward the corners as well.
When you are able to throw in Interesting conversation, access to full drinks and proximity to everyone – you won’t feel like you’ve died and gone to dating heaven, but you will see your opportunities and success increase.
Lots of men tend to walk into a strange environment and hunch down and hide away in the corners – as if they are an outsider. And they may as well be – according to the study, that’s how people will see you.
The worst place to be seen? Hanging out near the wall or sitting at a table. The hot chick approaching your table and asking “may I join you” only happens in the movies.
Moral of the story, get in the middle of the action. It actually has an amazing effect on those around you. Somehow you are the “center off attention.”
2. The Color Lure
What color can you wear to compel the opposite sex to approach you? Ah – if only it were as easy as putting on the “sex shirt” and women would flood your bedroom like a Playboy Mansion sleepover.
While this little trick won’t alone attract the babes, it’s a little detail that can be the difference in social situations. Remember, being alpha is in the details.
So if there were a color out there that women liked to see their men in – would you wear it? Hell yes you would. All other things being equal, this little detail could be the thing that puts you over the edge when there’s other PUA’s and general competition around.
According to Color Consultant, Leatrice Eiseman, Director of the Pantone Color Institute and author of Colors For Your Every Mood, women are attracted to men wearing the color blue. Why is this? There’s actually a mountain of research on this very subject – the effect of colors on human mood and perception.
According to Eiseman, guys who frequently wear blue are “stable, faithful, constant and always there.” The “blue guy” is a fantastic candidate for a long-term relationship someone who’s dependable, momogomous and can match his own clothes. And hey – maybe you aren’t that guy – but when women rely on their instincts to tell them who to fall for this is a huge advantage.
Evolution has seen to it that women seek out these stable protectors – even if they are looking for a one-night-stand. They can’t help it.
And while we’re at it – here’s a little tidbit about the women. Eiseman says women should wear a pink- peach to make themselves most approachable. The color is “very flattering to most skin tones, it gives you healthy glow,” and according to Eiseman, projects “a little vulnerability which brings out something protective in men.”
And dig this – she advise women who want to wear a color that weeds out guys who can’t handle strong women to go with a deep red, burgundy or plum. Men who aren’t attracted to strong women will steer clear. So when you see that hottie wearing the sexy red dress and you are intimidated – that’s why.
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More on the color code:
Of all the colors, red is the most sensual. But, wear red with caution. “Red is the color of sex and power,” says Eiseman. Red adds an element of excitement and attracts two types of women - women interested in sex, and women attracted to powerful men. Sure, you’ll probably have to fend off a lot of freaks…or then again, maybe you won’t want to.
Concerned your wardrobe is driving people away? Stay away from what Eiseman calls “squished caterpillar yellow-green” which is said to repel both sexes equally. For more clothing style tips, get the Alpha Life Volume 2. Cut, style, brands - it’s all in there.
3. Body Talk That Reels ‘Em In
How do you use body language to attract the opposite sex?
For women, the key is to make themselves approachable. According to nationally-respected body language expert and professional speaker, Patti Wood, a chick would want to make herself a “safe” (read approachable) target. How does she accomplish that? It’s damned-near the opposite of alpha male body language. (Hmmm….opposites attract, eh?) And believe it or not, gents, women read a ton of dating advice and stuff about body language – like you, they want to get hooked up too. Never think you’ll be “bothering her” just go for it.
Look for a woman who doesn’t take up a lot of space. It’s a sign she’s approachable. For an alpha man, “taking up space” is a sign of power and superiority…and of course the counterpart is the female version of a perfect match.
Wood says to women, “Even if you consider yourself a strong women, remember,you’re trying to get a man to come over and talk to you.” She explains, “you have to show you have room for someone else in your life.” A man has to show he can invite her into his life by his power.
In addition, Wood says “to be very approachable women should stand with their feet no farther than 6 inches apart with toes pointed slightly inward. ” Other key moves, the nod and the head tilt - signal you’re listening to what the other person has to say. Jeez guys – they are doing everything but “spelling it out” for us.
For men, appearing more dominant effectively draws the attraction of women. To attract women, stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart, and toes pointing outward. The complete alpha male body language moves you need to know are in the Alpha Life Series of Audio Programs. Not only how to show yours, but how to read hers.
So guys - feel free to take up some space. For men who are victims of the “nice guy” badge, or who appear to be too submissive to attract women, try taking your Y chromosome out for a spin. According to Mehrabian, men should “try wearing bulkier or more conservative hairstyles or clothing,” hold your head up, and slow down your speech and gestures to be more assertive.
Body language tips for both sexes: Don’t fold your arms and don’t chew on gum, ice or your fingernails. According to Wood, the chewing indicates anxiety or frustration, neither of which are very attractive emotions. Again, what we call beta characteristics.
4. The Power of a Smile
Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the most important things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and approachable) is to smile.
Not a great big plastic game-show smile, just your normal “I’m having a great time and I’m happy to be here” face will do the trick. According to Wood, “the smile is the international signal of friendliness.”
The Alpha is not afraid to smile like a lunatic – when it suits him. Betas and women will take their cues from the alpha – they will look to him to see if it’s okay to have a good time, or that they should be having a good time.
Watch for a woman to laugh at your jokes. If you say something remotely clever or funny, and she cracks up – you are in, my friend. If she throws her head back and laughs – you have yourself a submissive ready to please you. If you want to learn more little tips, tricks and moves to add to your game, get our new audio program, Every Trick In the Book – it has enough phone number technique to fill your Blackberry for a lifetime.
And the best news of all - smiles are contagious. Just like any mood - have you heard the expression “Misery loves company”? Well, it’s up to what kind of mood you will put her in. Smiling makes everyone relaxed, so you can get down to business.
5. Tempting With Scent
Studies show that women associate the scents of cinnamon and vanilla with love. Of course, if you are so inclined you could bake some ready-made cinnamon rolls about an hour before your date arrives, or, wear a cinnamon-vanilla croissant under each arm when you go out. But take this to the bank: Aromatherapy experts have long-believed cinnamon to be an aphrodisiac.
According to Laura Davimes, aromatherapy and herb expert , and owner of Herban Avenues, “certain aromatic plants exude oils similar to our own sexual secretions or pheromones. Wearing cinnamon/vanilla blends increases the presence of pheromone-like substances and dramatically increases attraction.”
So watch it when she’s wearing this type of scent. You’ll be a goner. But don’t ever miss the opportunity to use a vanilla scented incense in your house when she’s there. It will drive her nuts trying to figure out why she’s so hot for you.
Whatever you wear as a scent when you go out – make sure you spend a few dollars on it. Anything you can get next to the shaving cream at the drug store is a no-no. And those body sprays like Axe, et al, are really hated by most women over the age of 16.
Hope you enjoy and can use these simple little tips to enhance your game and your lifestyle.
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All the best