Have you ever asked yourself, “How do I start a conversation with a girl?”
Here’s your answer. Almost every man I talk to about picking up women always says the same thing. “I don’t know what to say,” or, “How do I start a conversation with her?” And any manner of things that boils down to freezing up due to lack of preparation or abundance of fear. While you’ve probably heard tons of clunkers for “pick up lines” and may have even tried some awful ones – I’m only going to focus on some of the best conversation starters I’ve come across in my years of experience in meeting women. Let’s first dive into what “openers” are and what makes a good one, then we’ll talk about some of my favorites.
Opener = First words you say to engage a woman in an interesting conversation.
For a complete list of the best tried and tested conversation starters I’ve ever come across, and how to use them correctly, download and listen to my 3-hour audio program, Complete Conversation Technique.
What makes a PUA opener different from a pick up line is that generally openers do not start out with some sort of show of interest in the woman. A good PUA opener should leave the woman guessing what your real intentions are. And this alone makes you seem more interesting to the woman – it’s a little mystery. Best of all, when you use a good PUA opener, she’ll put her guard down – and then you can make the “connection” with her.
So if you are not going to state your sexual interest in her, what is the opener going to actually do? A good opener engages everyone the woman is talking to. When approaching a group you will open the entire group. There is a killer, step-by-step technique for this in the Conversation Technique Audio – which allows you to gain acceptance from her peers and isolate her from the group if you wish. A good opener starts a conversation with a girl in a way that sets you apart from the other guys who have approached her. A good opener skips over the normal, boring small talk that kills most approaches instantly.
5 Ways to Open a Conversation
There are at least five different ways to start a conversation.
I think you can clearly see that this is different than using some Google’d pick up lines or ones you might have heard used on television or in the movies. I’m going to list some of the most effective opening lines I’ve used to start conversations with girls.
The following are from my research in compiling the Conversation Technique Audio Program and The Art of the Pick Up Line Audio Program.
Direct Compliment Opener
She’ll either say yes, she is very creative and then talk to you about it, or deny that she is – at which point you can respectfully disagree with her, again pointing out that she has great style. She could probably help you with your style – tell her to check you out. Turn around like a model, and say, “C’mon – be honest. What do you think?”
Liquor Store Robbery
This almost always leads into good conversation, with good energy. Tons of fun. Great to pull if you are with a buddy, and approaching two women. My students are reporting that this is their favorite opener right now. It seems you’ll need to be ready for the women to want to negotiate their percentage! You can say, well, maybe in the future for bigger jobs, we’ll keep you in mind. Better give me your number.
“Hey, I need your opinion on something…does my friend here look like criminal?” (chicks usually either laugh or look quizzically) “Because we were outside and some dude came up to him and touched him on the shoulder like this… (go ahead – touch her!) and asked, ‘Hey man, where can I get some weed?’”
Awesome Opinion Opener – Reality Show
“Hey, my friend here just got invited to be on the Jerry Springer show. But the theme of the show is Secret Admirers. They told him he’s got an admirer, but he won’t find out whom until he’s live on the set. So maybe it’ll be someone cute, but maybe not; it might even be a guy. What would you do if you were him?”
Cheating Email Opener
Women love to give their opinion. Always keep that in mind when at a loss for what to open with.
Not only that – when you ask them something they can relate to, or about a situation they can easily see themselves in (or have been in) you have great conversation. How to take this one to then next level is in the audio, but here are the nuts and bolts of this opener.
“Hey, this will only take a second – I need a woman’s perspective on something.”
Go on to say, “My best buddy was dating this girl – and she somehow hacked into his email and saw that he was still in contact with his ex-girlfriend. Well she totally freaked on him! Is she outta line or is he?”
Have some back up info at the ready – like, no – he wasn’t being sexual with the ex, just friendly. Or, I don’t know how she got into his email – maybe he left it signed on – but would you look if you could? Or – has anybody ever done that to you? Paying attention to your target woman’s opinions will help you later establish how much you have in common, by the way.
Those are just the beginning of some of my great openers – all culled from years of trying them out, making them up or feedback from others in the field. Although the openers above are quite good (and tested) I realize that everyone has different personalities and feel comfortable using different kinds of openers. So I collected my favorite, successful all-time best PUA openers and compiled them all into The Complete Conversation Technique Audio, and followed it up with The Art of the Pick Up Line.
You’ll instantly get your audios via download link to your email, and this means you’ll have absolutely no excuse not to be approaching women tonight.
All the best –