You know, almost every man I work with has a similar type of question. And usually it boils down to, “I’d like to talk to her…I just don’t know what to say.”
Now – If you observe true alphas and men who seem to be successful with women, you will notice that it just seems natural to them.
How many times have you seen a hot chick with some a-hole? How many times do you hear her complaining about the jerk she’s dating?
Sure, she complains, but she still sleeps with him.
…don’t listen to anybody that tries to convince you that texting is not here to stay in the dating world – I don’t care how far your grandpa had to walk to your grandma’s house to talk to her.
Gents, I’m telling you now – masculinity has become a cynical marketing campaign designed to sell us oversize automobiles and heart-stopping triple bacon cheeseburgers. And we fall for it.
Because women absolutely don’t respect a man who they can boss around. Even if it is through use of one of their classic manipulation tactics.
Well, on paper this looks good. And in reality, it’s a one-way-ticket to a nightmare. Let me break it all down for you.
I need to dispel this notion of the first date being so important, and, for most men, nerve wracking.
Everyday when I leave the house, talk to my students, or sit down in the MML offices, I learn something new. Every interaction with every woman adds to my experience, expertise and knowledge. And I still feel like I did 10 or 12 years ago when I first started out. Some days, it seems like I don’t know anything at all – and nothing I know is any good at all. We all have days like that. In fact – I know there are two kinds of guys reading this newsletter right now.
So, anyway, they call me and they want to know how to get their ex back. And they are thinking that I’ll talk to them for 5 or 6 minutes and give them my 3 best lines and their problem will be solved.
But those guys who get “lost” in the fantasy start to think that they can win these women over. How? By being their friend, their regular customer, a big tipper, a big complimenter and ultimately a big sucker.
You can’t eat. You can’t sleep. You feel this pit in your gut 24 hours a day. You just know she’s with him. You are driving by his place, her place, her work… This will fucking kill you. Sure as shit
Push/pull is whenever you emotionally push a woman away from you…and then emotionally pull her back in. Each push creates an emotional space for each pull.
If you had the answer – wouldn’t you do it? If you knew what women wanted, wouldn’t you give it to them? You’re probably saying, yes – I would.
And it has very very little to do with how a man looks. Sure, looks are important. In fact, every little detail of your life is what adds up to whether or not this or that woman is attracted to you.
Women are genetically programmed to respond to a certain type of man – period. They can’t help it. They just do it. Every time. I know. I’m that guy. I’ve been there – done that – and I know. So let me pull it all together for you. Yes, you can learn from guys who have the knowledge, and save yourself a ton of pain and frustration.
We’ve become a gender that is dominated by our “feelings” rather than our logic and instincts.
This stuff is good to have on hand and start to learn, regardless. Why? Because thoughts precede actions. That’s right. Knowing what an alpha would do, think or say is important to knowing how to act.
The alpha male makes no apologies, he doesn’t explain his behavior. He is completely comfortable in his own skin so he doesn’t need to explain anything to anybody.
Watch an alpha male in a group. How do you know who he is? He is centrally positioned in the group, everyone’s body language faces him and is positive towards him.
I can help you identify him – see if you or someone you know has any or all of the traits listed below. Things that define the Alpha man.
The problem with nice guys is, they not only listen to a woman to find out where she is at but they lose themselves in the woman’s emotions
Getting good with women is important. It is, perhaps, the most life-altering thing you can do for yourself. In order to truly get great with girls, you will make yourself into a better man than you ever envisioned you could be before you began the journey.
If I’ve just met a woman, and I casually drop into the conversation, “I’m not really looking to settle down right now or have a girlfriend, but I could see myself doing that with the right woman. ” – what happens?
When friends and family see you treating other as equals and with respect, they will see there is a whole lot more to your relationship than a bunch of clichés. A common fear amongst a man dating a younger woman is that she will leave him for someone younger. Bullshit.
Used properly – the text message is a surprisingly versatile and powerful tool in the arsenal of any man who’s looking for dates.
You and I both know that 99% of men (statistic made up) have ZERO idea what to text to a woman once they have her number. Heaven forbid they call her…
There was something between you two the night you met – you are thinking about her, she gave you her number, you were having a great time, the liquor was flowing…it’s a regular romantic comedy.
THAT feeling is what you want to keep going – and the window to do that is small.
That is just one of many ways to properly get a phone number and when and how to “ask” for it. If for some reason she or you stumble while you have your phone in-hand, just say, “Ok – gimme your number.” Don’t ask – tell.